Hearing morning birds singing beautiful songs and hearing those melody sounds. The weather is so pleasant and cannot be compared to anywhere else in Africa, you don’t want to get out of your bed , the alarm is your enemy, suddenly you hear a voice in your head ”time to work” as the young and old get on with it. You drive the most contemporary car in the town, you are famous among your society and work for an INGO/UN, and they are the best salary payers in Somaliland. After 8 hours of work and an afternoon nap, your nightlife starts. You visit the most exclusive hotels with friends, co-workers discussing politics, pointing out the most recent famous individuals in town and you date the most beautiful girls (Somalis). Somali women are famous for their shyness and their beauty compared to rest of the African women. They say Somali are “mixed with Arab“with brown skin. You heard one of your colleague’s mentions your favorite band’s new gig at the Panorama hotel (famous for Somali shows) and you need just pay $10 to enter. After enjoying this until 2am you go back the same page and daily lifestyle, happy and without worries.
The next day, on your way to work you gets a phone call from your cousin in Europe telling you to come pick him from the airport. You happily fetch him and after work, you take him to the town. ??? After a while you begin to realize the dramatic change in your surroundings including your friends ,the stories and discussions changed in to the , latest fashion trends , bright lights of terraces and buildings , KFC , parks , clubs and other social lifestyle in the west; its fine your cousin is new let him talk since he miss back home. ???
The next morning while at work, your beloved mom gives you a quick phone call telling you that your cousin is getting married so you need to bring him home to meet the girl’s family. It makes you wonder how quickly he found a woman. Nevertheless you proceed and meet with the girl’s family, arranging the engagement, printing cards, reserving the Mansoor hotel for the venue (one of the exclusive hotels in hargeisa). The engagement preparations are done with the date set. This hectic work didn’t even give you time to check your face book page nor even the chance to congratulate your cousin.
You almost started getting motivated to be married too, you have everything it takes right? You have been in relationship for the past 3 years, your lady mentioned marriage several times but you always say ‘why hurry, we need to get to know each other’ while remembering your grandfather’s advice about women. By no means do what women anticipate you to do, it’s part of your culture, you are the one who decides the next step, the day she start talking about something you don’t agree with, you ignore her calls for a week. You like flirting on face book, you are not ready to engage yourself this time, you tell all the girls you meet that you not ready for relationship but friendship. When you eventually decide to give your girlfriend a call, her phone is locked, you repeat for 3 days but no answer, you check face book and Skype, both are offline. All her communication seems to suddenly have gone offline. You start wondering what is happening, you start getting anxious, as you are eager to tell her that her waiting is over. You get the idea of going to her friend to ask about, but after a short visit, her friend tells you that your girlfriend got married to a man from Europe 3 days ago.
To be continued…
By: Ayaan Ahmed Mohamud